“Being somebody when you are somebody is easy. It’s also unstable, because you have to maintain your somebody-ness. But what if you could be somebody when you are a nobody? That’s freedom.”
“…marriage isn’t an unending series of orgasms. Marriage is an unending series of conversations.”
"A day will come, hopefully long before a devastating mid-life crisis, where you will see these massive realities of adulthood—achievement, beauty, money and romance—have no ability to give you lasting validation. And then where will you run when everything you drink leaves you thirsty? We shouldn’t waste our adulthood wearily searching for worth, rather we should let go of these attempts and rest in the knowledge that you have always mattered. The Gospel—the good news that Jesus lived and died for us though we had no merit—is for our justification from sin and our justification to exist. Being loved by God before we produce, and even as we fail, gives us freedom from needing anything else to define our lives. Because we exist, we are loved, and because we are loved, we will be OK. God’s grace deems us to be someone before we become someone—we’re important before we’re important and lovely before we are lovely."